Sunday, 22 December 2013

This Christmas, Be Nice To Yourself by: Amy Twain

It's Christmas season once again, and it's time for a breather since the past 11 months you've been working hard. It's the season to be merry and gift-giving. And speaking of gifts, you give your family, friends and loved ones gifts in the spirit of Christmas. 

But have you ever realized that you might be giving some gifts to others that you forgot to give one yourself? This holiday season; give yourself something effortless--the gift of being nice to yourself, what else? 

Think of some of the nice things to do for yourself. 

1) You can choose to live a healthy lifestyle by watching what you eat and that includes going easy on the junk food, or removing it completely off your system. Instead, just eat some healthful stuff like fruits and veggies (if you want your veggies tasty, bring some mayo dips to go with it). 

Then, drink more water as much as you can. If you want to be nice to yourself, you know that your health always comes first. 

2) Cheer yourself up--buy some flowers for yourself. Yes, you read it right--why wait for other people to buy your flowers? Any bunch of flowers brightens up someone's day, so don't forget yourself. Instead of waiting for others to cheer you up, you can have the initiative of having a quick fix-me-up. 

3) In connection with this, enjoy a spa day. Yes, this is the ultimate "me-time" wherein you get to pamper and relax yourself at the hands of the experts. 

There, it's just you, yourself, and well, the masseuse to bring you some rejuvenating glory. 

4) Maintain your journal. Now, you have more time off work and more time partying and relaxing, you can record all your activities in your journal. There, you can be yourself, uninhibited and revealing, you've all the liberty to edit, censor or disclose all your personal thoughts and feelings. 

In the end, you know the best Christmas gift is to be nice to yourself. 

Enjoy your happy holidays everyone!

The author invites you to visit:

Tuesday, 10 December 2013

Getting Out Of A Rut In 3 Simple Steps by: Michael Lee

Need advice on getting out of a rut? You’re not the only one. But count yourself lucky because at least you’re on the right path. Right now, you’re at stage one which is recognizing your state of self. By acknowledging that you’re in a rut, your mind is now ready to change direction. 

Read on for more information on getting out of a rut. 

Step 1: Brainstorm With A Friend. 

Two heads are better than one. If you want to find new inspiration and come up with new ideas, what better way than to talk to a friend? 

Invite someone over for dinner and bounce ideas off of each other. If ideas aren’t what you’re after, then simply talking things over or just airing out your problems can help you in getting out of a rut. 

In fact, you don’t even have to talk about your situation at all. You can simply talk about last night’s game or that new movie that’s showing, and you’ll find yourself much more energized right after! 

Step 2: Try Something New. 

Getting out of a rut is easy! Simply do something you haven’t done before. It doesn’t have to be anything extreme, although extreme might be good sometimes as long as you know your limitations. 

For example, some people like to eat at a restaurant they’ve never been to before. Others choose to take up a new hobby. I’ve even heard of people who turned to dancing to help them find inspiration. 

The experience is different for everybody. How about you? If there’s anything you’ve been wanting to try, now is the best time to do so! 

Step 3: Visit A Museum. 

Admit it. When was the last time you went to see your local museum? And school trips do not count. It may not be your cup of tea, but why don’t you give it a chance? It just might surprise you. 

For those who have yet to be convinced, let me tell you that visiting museums is a great way to uplift your spirit. Art and history will do that to you. They trigger emotions, reactions and thoughts that we otherwise would not have had we not paid the museum a visit. 

Getting out of a rut doesn't have to be a long process. If you’re really determined to find inspiration, you won’t have trouble doing so. Don’t be troubled by your situation either. 

Everyone goes through such an experience at one point or another. The important thing is that you now know how to find your way out of it.

The author invites you to visit:

Sunday, 1 December 2013

Do You Think It's Too Late To Change? by: Susan Russo

It's never too late to be who you might have been." -George Eliot 

I was on a flight home this week and sat next to 2 flight attendants who were also flying back home. The one girl was telling me that she had been flying for 28 years and now it's too late for her to do something different. She said "No one will hire me now; it's too late to change things." 

First I thought, how sad that she actually believes that plus I knew how wrong she really was. But...a belief is something you tell yourself over and over again, even if it's not true. The reality is that it's never too late to change anything. 

It's never too late to lose weight, to change your attitude, get out of debt, stop spending so much, get a life, find a partner, get a divorce, have a better relationship, get a new job, go back to school, let go of the past, start appreciating your blessings, or have more balance and on and on. And, it's never too late to start enjoying your life again. 

Sure we all make mistakes in life that if we could do over we might take a different path. Or, we might wish we hadn't said what we did or wish we had said more when we didn't! 

But, that's life. You live and learn and then you move on. But, some people decide that whatever happened to them in the past is a permanent disability and they can't change the outcome; a screwed up life or one they wish was different. 

Is it easy to change things when you have lived a certain way for what seems to be forever, you've formed bad habits or your feel stuck in a rut? No, it's not always easy but it's possible to change things. And more importantly, it's never too late to change things if you really want to. 

In this world where there seems to be so much stress from work, pressure from all the things you have to do but haven't yet, worries about "issues" going on in your life, fear of what may happen or not happen etc., it's time to learn how to release all of this pent up anxiety and learn to breathe again. 

Where is the balance in your life? Where is the break you need? Where is the fun, relaxation, freedom? Where did you get lost along the way that you began to believe that you have no control over how you live your life and the man behind the curtain pulls all of your strings? (Oz) 

Even if you are in a job that you don't like, feeling lonely, feeling stressed, sad, and overweight or whatever your "issues" are it's never too late to stop and smell the roses, to make the best of what you DO have and take the steps to change what you don't want anymore. 

As the serenity prayer states: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference." 

No matter what happens to us, no matter what situations fall at our doorstep, no matter what paths we've walked down, we all have the choice as to how we will allow it to impact our lives; either negatively or on a positive note. 

Some people say, "Life is short." I say, "Life is long!" So figure out how to live it well, it's never too late!

The author invites you to visit:

Saturday, 30 November 2013

Law of Attraction: The Importance of Feeling Good by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"It's really important that you feel good. Because this feeling good is what goes out as a signal into the universe and starts to attract more of itself to you. So the more you can feel good, the more you will attract the things that help you feel good and that will keep bringing you up higher and higher."

--Joe Vitale, Author and Speaker 

The "Law of Attraction" states that like attracts like. Most Law of Attraction gurus state that there are four steps to manifestation: 

1. Write down what you want 

2. Repetitively visualize what you want as if it is already true, with much positive emotion. Do this many times daily for at least a year. 

3. Take actions toward your goal. 

4. Keep your frequency high by feeling good 

It is this latter step that I want to address in this article, as it is often the one that people have the most difficulty with. 

Feeling good means that we need to attend to both our thoughts and our physical bodies. Our ability to have positive emotions and take positive actions come directly from our thoughts, and our thoughts are often deeply affected by what is going on in our physical body. 


Our ego wounded self is deeply addicted to negative thinking, and to repeatedly thinking the many false beliefs that were programmed into us when we were growing up. Thoughts about ourselves, such as "I'm not good enough," "I don't deserve to be loved," "Good things don't happen for me, "I can't do it," make us feel anxious and depressed. Negative thoughts about events, people and outcomes can keep us continually stressed and depressed - the opposite of feeling good. 

These negative thoughts and beliefs create a heavy, low frequency, which draws to us that which we don't want. 

In order to manifest what you want, you need to be thinking about what you want rather than what you don't want. In order to feel good and have a high enough frequency to attract what you want, it is vitally important that you become aware of your self-judgments and judgments of others and consciously move into compassion instead. 


What you put into your body and how you treat your body has a direct effect on your brain. 

Food itself has either a high or low frequency. The highest frequency foods are fresh organic fruits and vegetables. The low frequency foods are foods that are sugared, packaged, canned, refined, devitalized, fried, or chemical/pesticide-laden. Low frequency foods not only draw energy from the body as the body struggles to digest them, but they cause the brain to lose focus and clarity, making it harder to consciously think positive thoughts. 

Drugs and alcohol are also low frequency. While you might feel good for the moment, in the long run these substances backfire, causing numbness, anxiety, and depression rather than good feelings. If you tune into how you feel, you will discover that all low-frequency substances - food, drugs, alcohol - cause you to feel less than good for days after consuming them. Then you want more of the addictive substances to feel good again, creating a vicious circle. And the good feeling is not a true good feeling coming from your spiritual connection, so it is still in a low frequency and will hinder your ability to manifest. 

Consistent exercise and enough sleep raise the frequency. It is difficult to feel good and have a high enough frequency to manifest when you are not getting enough sleep or exercise. 

Feeling good means taking loving care of yourself on all levels, and this is what leads to your high frequency and ability to manifest.

The author invites you to visit:

Thursday, 21 November 2013

Change Your Life - Control Your Mind by: Willie Horton

You are the creator of your own version of reality. Decades of psychological research prove beyond doubt that how you think controls how you behave and how you behave creates your life. Your mood dictates how you feel about every situation and every person that you encounter in your life. Your mood dictates how you react to every perceived opportunity, threat, compliment or insult. And, unfortunately, at this moment in time, you are incapable of controlling your own mood because it is automatically dictated by your subconscious mind. And the bad news is that, left to its own devices, your subconscious mind will always focus on what a psychologist would call your "stored knowledge" - everything that you learned about how the world works and, most importantly, everything that you learned about yourself - way back during your formative years. In other words, your life today is entirely dictated by things that happened to you or for you years or decades ago. 

Since the early decades of the last century, research has, time and again, concluded that so-called normal people are simply not capable of paying any attention to what is actually happening before their very eyes. Sure, normal people really think that they know what's going on, but they see everything through a fog of formative years programming. Believe it or not, normal people actually think they're taking real action when, in reality, they are simply automatically reacting to their subconscious mind's version of current events. And that interpretation is based on preconceived notions that are way past their sell-by date. Consider this for just a moment. If you actually acted, instead of reacted, would you be phased by some passing trivia that will be forgotten tomorrow? Would you lose your temper with your kids and make matters worse? Would you annoy your boss who holds your career in the palm of his or her hand? And would you even bother to waste your energy on allowing someone who cuts in on you in rush hour traffic to annoy you? 

More to the point, would you consciously self-sabotage with useless, crazy, unfounded thoughts that you are inadequate? Would you deliberately let an opportunity slip because you think that you're shy? Would you become a perspiring, crumpled, nervous wreck every time that you've got to speak in public? Would you be lazy? Would you be stressed out? Would you succumb to what is, after all, nothing other than perceived pressure? Not one of these things make any sense - and yet that is where most of us find ourselves most of the time - no wonder the World Health Organization believes that stress will be the biggest killer of the 21st century. 

Normal people - and that's all of us to a greater or lesser extent - are completely out of control. If you're not happy with yourself or your life, if there's something that you would like to change, if you'd like to achieve more or be more relaxed, it has nothing to do with what is actually happening to you or for you - it is all down to a normal, crazy, out of control subconscious mind. You might wish for or want for better times, greater things to happen, to be calmer, more assertive, more attractive or even have more money. However, the ups and downs of normal living have convinced you that life doesn't work like that - you believe that you're neither sufficiently brave nor courageous to take the leap. You're wrong, you only think that life is what it is, that you've got to work hard to be a success, that certain things are beyond you. All these self-defeating useless thoughts are many miles removed from actual reality - they are a figment of a subconscious mind that's lost in a past long gone. 

You can't control your life - nobody can. On the other hand, you can exert extra-ordinary influence on every aspect of your life by simply taking control of the one thing in life over which you can exert complete and absolute control - your own state of mind. You must drag (often you will have a fight on your hands!) that subconscious mind of yours away from its total obsession with a long-gone past. It is vital that you re-learn the innate skills that we all have to pay attention to what is actually happening in the present moment - something that was second nature to you when you were a child. You must take full control of your otherwise wayward mind - you must commit to re-training yourself to come to your senses. A small commitment - perhaps only a few minutes a day on your part - will change your life utterly. Those few minutes each day need to be spent in relearning how to pay attention to what you’re five senses are actually telling you - without your warped subconscious mind putting its own irrelevant spin on things. 

If you make the effort - and only a little effort is required - to re-learn the art of being present - if you do actually bother to turn up to your own life - you will take control of your mind and create a reality based on who you really are, what you really feel, what you really want and what you can really achieve. 

Copyright (c) 2010 Willie Horton

The author invites you to visit:

Thursday, 14 November 2013

Top Ten Ways to Have Better Self Confidence by: Silas Reed

To stand out a winner everywhere, especially in your life you need to have lots of self-confidence. Self-confidence will take you to places that you couldn’t have even imagined otherwise! 10 ways are mentioned here that will help you gain better self-confidence and finding your inner calling! 

Top Way #1 

Knowledge. Update yourself about the things around you and more importantly, about the stuff you’re involved in or with. Ignorance is NOT bliss! With an expansive knowledge base, undoubtedly your confidence will also increase! 

Top Way #2 

Esteem. Always hold yourself in high esteem regardless of what anyone tells you. If you lose your self-esteem, you’re gone. Never commit the blunder of losing your self-esteem. 

Top Way #3 

Exercise. This is one factor than not only strengthens your body but is helpful for strengthening your self-confidence as well. Exercise flushes out the negative energy out of your system and that includes your mind. Haven’t you felt fresh after a good round of exercising? That is one indicator that makes you feel confident from inside! 

Top Way #4 

Winner. A winner always is confident about his abilities. The winner never doubts his capabilities and never questions them. Instead he does everything to convert the weak link into a strong point in his character. Therefore think like a winner does. 

Top Way #5 

Aggression. Aggression is much needed when you need to build your confidence levels the aggression being talked about here is controlled aggression. That helps you rise above others and not pull others down that is actual aggression. The best example where you can see actual aggression in play is in the athletes (sportspersons). They have zeal and enthusiasm for winning that supersedes everything. 

Top Way #6 

Communication. Poor self-confidence often results in you unable to communicate properly. Interestingly, these two are inter-dependent. If you can communicate your thoughts and beliefs well enough, you’re bound to have great self-confidence. Communication is therefore often an important part of our syllabi and personality development! 

Top Way #7 

Opportunist. Become an opportunist NOW! Situations thrown at you are actually opportunities for you to grab. If you have a rational bent of mind, you’ll see through them and try to grab them the earliest! Needless to say, that will be the biggest ever factor to boost your self-confidence. 

Top Way #8 

Optimist. Pessimists do not have a way. Optimists have very high self confidence levels. That goes without saying that always see the good part in everything. Think rationally. Become an optimist today! 

Top Way #9 

Family. Family ties and bonds instil immense confidence in an individual. There’s no doubt about the fact that a family support means a lot that itself is a great self confidence booster! 

Top Way #10 

Love. Love and be loved. This might sound philosophical but that is the ultimate truth. How does it feel not to be loved by people around you? Dents your confidence, right? So to expect love, you must learn to love first. Prioritize loving and you will find your world change. You’ll be happy too and gain immense self-confidence!

The author invites you to visit:

Thursday, 7 November 2013

The 7 Deadly Beliefs by: John Barzallo


Beliefs are an important part of everyone’s life because they define an individual’s personality. They play a very important role in determining a person’s ability to achieve success. Beliefs are like sub conscious thoughts and thus, they form the foundation of your mental programming. If you have positive beliefs, they can take you a long way in life. However, exactly the opposite is true for negative beliefs. The negative or self-limiting beliefs cripple your chances of achieving success and stunt your personal growth. 

Your limiting beliefs may be due to society, growing up experiences, parental and peer pressure, coping mechanisms and several other reasons. A large number of people limit themselves in some way or the other by harbouring negative beliefs. 

This report will examine each of the 7 deadly beliefs that can hold you back. At least one of these is responsible for any lack of success you feel. But which one? Let’s take a look at each of them briefly here. Each of the 7 subsequent posts will analyse them in detail, so you can overcome and break through to the success you’ve always wanted. 

Belief 1: Believing that Poverty is synonymous to virtuosity and that all successful (rich) people are evil several people who fail to make it big usually label the rich and successful as evil and associate poverty with virtuosity. This is a case of blaming the affluent for your sorry state of affairs. Such a negative belief will restrict your financial growth. Several rich people are generously charitable and good human beings. You need to overcome this belief to pursue your financial goals. 

Belief 2: Believing that money is a corrupting power of people's good values another negative belief that is damaging to your financial success is that money is responsible for corrupting people’s good values. When you have such a belief, you sub consciously program your mind not to make the most of opportunities that will bring in wealth. Your mind will perceive wealth as a negative stimulus. You must get rid of this self-limiting belief to be able to attract wealth in your life. 

Belief 3: Believing that you are not clever, educated, brave enough 

This belief stems from having a low self-esteem. They are irrational and damage your self-confidence. When you don’t consider yourself worthy of a challenge or opportunity, you sub-consciously accept defeat even before trying. Constantly underestimating yourself can have severe repercussions on your personal as well as professional life. 

Belief 4: Believing that No one will help you The cause of this belief is usually due to distorted images of self and others and is thus, a little more difficult to solve than other negative beliefs. It could be due to superiority complex, inferiority complex or simply distrust of others. This belief not only cripples your chances of success but also damages your social life. 

Belief 5: Believing that you will be rejected/not liked by people 

Everyone likes being loved and adored, but it is wrong when you let it become so important that you start judging yourself based on others beliefs. You start giving undue importance to others opinions and stray from pursuing your own goals. The belief makes you extra sensitive to criticism and becomes an obstacle in your personal growth. 

Belief 6: Believing that certain things are impossible A belief that stops you from giving your best to a situation is that certain 

things are impossible. When you label a particular task as impossible, you create a wall against it in your head. This mind set causes you to overlook potentially life-changing opportunities. You must understand that believing certain things to be impossible before you even try is a cowardly behaviour. It is an excuse for people who are not sure of their own capabilities. 

Belief 7: Believing that failure is your destiny Some people take even one failure to heart and stop trying. They start believing that failure is their destiny and no matter how hard they try, they will always be unsuccessful. You must understand that failure and success 

are both sides of the same coin; one follows the other. Instead of brooding about your failure, you should learn your lesson from it and try again without repeating your mistakes. Your destiny is not unchangeable and with hard work you can achieve a successful life. 

You may not even be aware that you harbour a negative belief that cripples your chances of success. If you are not achieving goals and are not happy with your life, you must identify your self-limiting belief and rectify it. Once you are free from the shackles of your limiting beliefs, you will be able to live a fuller and more successful life. 

All the very best of success to you 

John Barzallo

The author invites you to visit:

Saturday, 2 November 2013

Your Attitude Is Everything by: Brian Gosur

I am going to ask you to do something very weird right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative? 

Now lets say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you what's on your mind? 

The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer to number two can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling. 

Here's another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen? 

You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind. 

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too  unless, of course, you are a great actor. 

And it doesn't end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you. 

The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative. 

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude. A positive attitude is very catchy. 

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake. Think about this. Of all the characters in the Winnie the Pooh movies, who would you rather want to be around. Eeyore, the negative donkey or Tigger, the positive Tiger? 

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude. 

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely to carry a positive attitude. 

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude. 

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others around you feel the same way. This is good as gold. 

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way. 

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought. 

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to have positive thinking as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude. 

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life. 

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn. 

As always, if you are beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome. My mom always said, if you feel bad about your situation, you can always find somebody worse off then you are. 

You don't have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what's not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one today. 

Its not easy to be positive in this economy we have right now, but as a man thinks in his heart, so is he. (Proverbs.23:7) Try it. 

(Philippians 4:8) Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

The author invites you to visit:

Thursday, 24 October 2013

Law of Attraction - The Power Of Positive Thoughts by: David Nesmtih

So what is the law of attraction? And how will you be able to use it and apply it in your own life? The answer is plain and simple. The law of attraction states that whatever you think about, you basically attract it. In other words, whatever your dominant thoughts are, it will always find its way and make its own manifestation. Now, if you are prone to thinking nothing but negative thoughts, then you are guaranteed that you will be getting nothing but negative results as well. 

It is not that hard to be fearful at all times, most especially if you experienced bad things or tragedy in your life. You are most likely to encourage negative thoughts, or constantly fearing that the same thing will happen to you again. If you keep on doing this to yourself, then it will happen to you. Again, the law of attraction says that you attract whatever your mind dictates you. 

Now, you may be wondering, how on earth can I stop this fear that I have for years now? How can I function well in this life, if I am constantly afraid to step out of my box? You basically do not need to change things overnight. Yes, getting rid of your fears and other unwanted negative thoughts is not that easy. But if you try hard enough, you will be able to get past it. If you use the law of attraction in your life, by simply learning how to let go of your bad feelings and unwanted negative thoughts, then you will definitely be able to free yourself from those hindrances that has been boxing you up. You too, will be able to function properly, and in turn attract or manifest abundance. 

Think about the things that you can actually do if you suddenly let go of your fears and free your mind of any negative thoughts. For example, you are afraid to venture in a new business project, simply because you failed at it once. You ended up losing a lot of money, and told yourself never to do anything crazy like that again. However, do you think that sulking will help you get back the money that you've once lost? No amount of fear, or boxing yourself up, will help you earn that money again. But if you start to conquer your fear, and be brave enough to try again, only then will you be able to succeed. Bear in mind, that even great minds like Einstein, Cheney, and Gates, also failed once or twice in their lives. But if they stayed boxed-in and afraid to try once again, do you think we will be able to enjoy the things that the have imparted or shared us until this very day? I don't so! 

If you keep on having intense fear, to the point that it is keeping you from functioning properly, then now is the right time that you start letting go of your negative thoughts, feelings or emotions, and start taking in nothing but positive or good thoughts. Let the law of attraction work for you in a good way, and not the other way around. Let it be your tool to succeed in this life. 

This life can be hard, only if you think of it in that way. You are the captain of your ship; you are the only one who can control the outcome of your life. If you wallow on your fears, then you will drown with your ship. So rise above your fears by letting it go. Fear it no more; instead battle it with all of your strength, might and courage. Use the power of positive thoughts to attract nothing but positive and great results.

The author invites you to visit:

Friday, 18 October 2013

No Goals, No Go by: Andy Grant

One of my favourite conversation-starter questions to ask people is "What are your goals?" The answer can tell a great deal about a person. 

Nearly every time, there's something in common among those who feel stuck in their current situation, unhappy with one or more aspect of their life, and feeling as though they are going nowhere: they have no goals. 

In some cases, it's simply a case of not understanding the power and presence that goals provide (and in these cases, simple instruction is the answer). Goal setting is a breeze once you understand how to do it. 

With other folks, they may understand the power of goals, but they simply haven't taken the time or effort to set any (or to update their last batch of goals). It's important to set new goals as soon as you achieve your goals, otherwise you can lose momentum. 

Other folks claim to be "going with the flow" (which often means drifting, going nowhere) and waiting for inspiration to strike. 

The trouble with that approach is: inspiration typically doesn't appear until you become crystal clear about what you want. 

Writers get blocked when they stare at a blank page, waiting for something to come. Writers can easily be inspired by imagining the end result of their writing (whether it's increased sales thanks to effective ad copy, or an emotional reaction elicited by a short story). 

A person without a vision is like a ship afloat on the ocean. Sure, it might be a fun ride, you may get to relax a bit, but next thing you know, a couple of months have passed and you're now running out of rations, clean water, sunscreen and sanity. 

But a ship with a destination in mind travels with passion AND purpose, and becomes unstoppable. When you have clear, concise goals, the Universe can then deliver exactly the clues you require to follow your course and reach your destination. 

Don't wait on inspiration -- because inspiration is waiting on you, right now at this very moment. 

Create a vision. Invoke your passion. Ask for a sign. You will get one. 

But if you don't select a destination, don't be surprised if you just keep drifting in limbo -- and then you have no right to whine about how "nothing is happening" because that part was ultimately up to you --- and you never chose a destination! 

Be brave, be daring, be confident, and have faith. Whatever you ask for, YOU CAN HAVE.

Go for it!

The author invites you to visit:

Friday, 11 October 2013

3 Steps to Smart Goal Setting by: TJ Philpott

Smart goal setting starts with learning not to set yourself for failure. You may have all the ambition in the world but if your goals are not achievable or otherwise beyond your reach you will experience much frustration. The danger in this is not only the wasted time and effort but also that you may be discouraged from setting goals in the future and that would be a terrible shame. 

Here are 3 requirements you will want your goals to meet to increase the chances that you can and will actually accomplish them. 

Must Be Focused 

The objectives you establish for yourself must be clearly defined and specific in order for you to put together a plan as to how you will accomplish them. Consider your goals a target, which is exactly what they are, and with that said if they are not in focus how can you expect to hit them? 


It is very important that whatever it is you want to achieve is something that is attainable in regards to your particular skill sets and other available resources that may be required. The danger in setting goals that are not realistic is that the disappointment you experience may dissuade you from ever doing so again! Making an accurate and honest assessment of the 'tools' and resources you have to work with and how they measure up to what it is you want to achieve should be your first step. 


There must exists a means to determine your progress since once again if you are not seeing results your frustration levels will rise along with the temptation to quit!. This help you makes adjustments if needed and also keeps you motivated provided progress is being made. Remember that along with the ambition you may possess, your motivation is a huge factor in whether you will be successful at achieving what you have set put to accomplish. In addition a realistic time table needs to be established to help you better measure your progress! 

Smart goals setting involves establishing objectives that are not only suitable for your skill sets but measurable as well. Setting goals is an admirable thing but even if you have all the ambition in the world you likely will not reach them if you get overly frustrated. When establishing your goals the key is to determine ahead of time if they fit your talents and/or resources and will you be able to chart your progress. If both these requirements are not met if is likely your goals will not be met either.

The author invites you to visit:

Wednesday, 9 October 2013

Understanding and Banishing Worry by: Willie Horton

Worry is a corrosive form of useless thought - that is all worry is. Yet, it turns mole hills into mountains, conjures up imaginary crises and transforms the small puddles that we have to inevitably step over in life into raging impassable rivers. Instead of looking at life's little hand grenades for what they really are, our sad little minds turn them into weapons of mass self-destruction. Worry is not just a waste of your energy - worry, at best, is stifling the life out of you - at worst, it is the cancer that is eating you from the inside out. Worry removes you totally from the here and now and disables you from doing what needs to be done. 

Think about just how bizarre the act of worrying really is. After all, what sensible person would willingly decide to direct their mental energy into something that they do not want to happen? Yet that is what worry is. Maybe this is solid evidence that there aren't too many sensible people about! I've spoken to plenty of people over the last year who are worried about losing their jobs - not because their jobs are in any jeopardy but because they've seen other people lose theirs and, everyday, they take some perverse pleasure in wallowing in the wall-to-wall bad news that is choking the airwaves. And, in the recent past, I've come across quite a few individuals who are worried about money - who, at the very same time, have bought themselves new cars, comforted themselves with a few designer-labelled garments and, after that splurge, have ended up worrying even more! 

Which is the more sensible thing to do? Worry about losing your job or doing the job to the very best of your ability? After all, not doing your job to the best of your ability increases the chances of you losing it - your worry, as it often does, becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. And what's the point of worrying about money? It would be far better for you to re-focus your mind on the small but important things that make life truly worth living? Which will lead to a happier and more successful life, directing your energy into what you don't want to happen or pouring your energy into the here and now in the expectation that the things that you want to happen will come to pass? 

Sadly, the normal mind is the author of its own misery. I'm not saying that bad things don't happen - the point I'm making is that, when they do, there are very few people who are mentally fit enough to get on with what needs to be done to dig themselves out of the hole and start afresh. In fact, normal people do quite the opposite - even when all is going well for the normal person, those actively go looking for a shovel! Sadly, there's a mountain of research from the field of psychology that indicates that we are predisposed to focus our minds on the negative. And, as one client told me recently, if he can't think of something negative, his mind will start making it up! That is all that worry is - a concoction of a fevered normal mind. 

So, let's sort your worries out for you. The first thing that you need to understand is that outside events don't worry you - it is you who decides to worry. That decision may be subconscious but it is, nevertheless, a decision on your part. What you have to do it release your subconscious mind from its obsession with the negative. You don't do this by fighting - and giving even more energy to - the negative - rather, you achieve it be consciously paying attention to real reality - the reality of what is actually taking place in this moment. The reality of now is very different from what you perceive it to be. Your perception is warped by your negative subconscious mind - you see nothing as it is. So you end up seeing other stuff - stuff that isn't real, problems that may never arise at some point in the future - when, yet, all you truly have is right here, right now. 

The only place where you can be your very best is here. The only time that you can take the action required to better your life is now. You need to learn how to focus as much of your attention as possible on here and now. When you focus your attention in this manner, you will simply have too little attention left to manufacture the crazy trains of thought that hijack the worrier's mind! Not only will you break the subconscious cycle of worry, you will become more effective by being more focused - even a half-wit - and research suggests that most normal people fall into this category! - could work that out!

So, tomorrow morning, instead of starting your day in the mindless mess that fosters and nurtures worry, take five minutes - it's all that you need to set things in motion. Sit down somewhere where you won't be disturbed for those five minutes, close your eyes and focus only on what you hear. The next morning, sit down quietly again and turn your attention to the physical feelings that you're experiencing in your body. After a couple of days, start focusing on the subtler feelings - you might concentrate for five minutes on the effect that each breath has on your body - your nostrils, shoulders, chest, lungs and stomach. Start getting in touch with what your senses are actually telling you. In coming to your senses, you will understand the nonsense of worry. 

Copyright (c) 2010 Willie Horton

The author invites you to visit:

Tuesday, 24 September 2013

Why Desire is the Basis of Achieving All Your Goals? by: Nicolas Baron

All of the great achievers throughout history have one thing in common; they have all been dreamers or desires  If anyone wants to achieve their goals in life then the first thing they need to do is to establish what their desires are. This is what makes people who are highly successful different from the rest - they know exactly what they want in life. 

Simply just wishing for success won't work, so what you need to do is take certain steps to get what you want. The next step is to unleash your previously held back determined attitude, almost bordering it on an obsession to fulfil that desire. It does not matter what your desire is, it may be a desire to excel in business, it could be a desire to learn a new skill, or it could involve a desire to change certain aspects of your personal life. 

Regardless what your desire is, it will only be fulfilled if some of the following actions are taken; 

Firstly a person must realize what it is that you need to become content with your lives and give yourself a step by step plan to achieve this. You then need to consider how much work is needed to be put in to begin achieving those aims. Next you should set a deadline for reaching the final goal and then create a plan with a timeline highlighting how and when you will begin the tasks. This knowledge must be updated and read out regularly to keep yourself on track so that you can achieve your desire. 

Everyone who has achieved great things adopt a similar philosophy when setting themselves goals. The best writers, artists, sportsmen, inventors, musicians and scientists, along with many other pioneers of modern professions, all follow the process of putting their thoughts into action successfully when backed by a burning desire. Everyone, no matter what their chosen path in life start in the same situation; beginning with nothing but their thoughts and desires to spur them on. 

Many people lack self confidence and are unwilling to set their aims higher than they already have; this is due to the strong fear of failing. This is sometimes due to certain people who are close to you who may discourage you due to the fact they feel your goals are unrealistic and are afraid of change due to their own life choices. It may be that friends and family do not approve and therefore use ridicule to prevent their loved one from making what they feel is a mistake. 

However, these people need to realize that we live in a world that continually throws us new and unique opportunities during our lifetimes. The world has only become modernized with the efforts of the creative and productive generations before us. Without that burning desire that these people had, we might never have discovered the power to travel abroad by plane, communicate with the other side of the world by phone, and order something from overseas via the internet. With the development of technology and the industrialization of the world, we now have more job opportunities and diversity than we have ever had. 

The time for everyone to realize their dreams is now. We must continue to follow the same methods of the pioneers before us by taking the courage to act upon our thoughts with conviction and fulfil our burning desires. It is important that all negative influences are avoided as there is no excuse for time wasting. It is easy for people to say they want to achieve something but in reality they will only really begin to realize their goals once they take those first important steps in which they make a plan outlining the route to success. 

Everyone has to start somewhere and not everything will always go to plan. What is fundamental to success is that a person is not discouraged by initial failure. Most people who have claimed to have 'made it' in life will also be the first to admit that they also had failures along the way. With every failure comes the chance to learn something new for another opportunity. 

All achievements no matter how significant they are begin with a burning desire to achieve the end result. Within the human mind there is a power that is hard to explain; it is the ability to focus positive thoughts on achieving what you want the most. Success is sometimes a thing that at first seems impossible but when a burning desire within is so strong the word impossible loses significance.

Wednesday, 18 September 2013

Increase Your Self Confidence and Enjoy Life More by : Jo Richards

Generally many people tend to see other people's situation better than their own and wish to change something about themselves, if they can afford to. Also, some people exhibit excessive self confidence though in truth, they're hiding behind the veneer of lack of self confidence or low self esteem. 

Low self confidence is commonly expressed in talking oneself down not only in public but most significantly, self dialogue you have with yourself, which gets programmed in your mind and becomes a habitual mind-set or talking about yourself. Sometimes, individuals tend to make fun of themselves in a disparaging way. This habit doesn't help in any way to improve your confidence. Lack of self confidence holds you back from enjoying many areas of life including unfulfilling relationships, career and personal improvement. 

One of the key ingredients in the path to personal improvement is creating your self confidence with a view to living life to the full and harnessing your capability. Learning to improve your confidence will save you from toxic relationships, stagnant career or even inability to find a job, to mention a few. 

But there's good news: nothing stays the same in perpetuity and with some effort, you'll be able to turn the situation round, begin to see a significant shift in your level of confidence. So how do you start? There are some basic self growth tips you need to know and be prepared to take the necessary steps to make it beneficial. Good intention without deed is simply worthless so here are some exercises to consider: 

What are you most afraid of? 

Until you determine what you could be afraid of, it will be a bit demanding initially to begin improving your self confidence. For instance, if you're anxious about job interviews, do not deny that situation so that you could take steps to improve. By denying your fears, you are mainly hurting one person; you. Marcus Turllius Cicero said: If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started. 

Know yourself 

The routine of building your confidence starts with appreciating yourself. It's one thing to hold other people in high esteem but it's another to put them above yourself or permit their opinions to gain more prominence than yours. Self awareness will enable you to get to know, appreciate and value who you are a lot better and learn to be your best self. 

Log your thoughts 

Writing is an excellent habit that makes you think a bit more. From writing, you will start to explore your deeper thoughts. Many accomplished people maintain journals, which in time will aid your thinking and behavioural patterns from which you'll be able to do what it takes to succeed. 

Adjust your internal thought processes 

Your level of self confidence is directly linked to your inner dialogue. Simply imagine how you'd really feel if someone criticizes you or makes derogatory remarks about you. Would you simply curl up and passively accept it? If you are not willing to accept other people's disrespect and sarcasms, why are you keen accept yours? 

Perfection only exists in movies! 

No one is complete in every way despite the fact that generally magazines try to depict that sense of perfection. Life is always expanding experience and there are many ups and downs on the way, so why should you expect yourself to be excellent in everything? Accept being your best self and embark on enhancing what you have. 

Increase your self confidence with positive affirmations 

Words are very highly effective particularly when spoken with desire. Positive affirmations are deliberately expressed positive statements that reflect your deepest desires and when repeated frequently, go a long way to establish new patterns of thought in your mind. The following are a few examples of affirmations to get you started. Remember that they should be positive, expressed in present tense and affirmative: 

I'm self confident and persuasive at next weeks interview 

I'm capable and courageous 

I'm confident in every situation 

I approve of myself and feel good about myself 

Affirmations are not merely recited casually, it's good to repeat them with intent and feeling, believing in the outcome you seek as if it has already been realized. These will assist to super-charge and build your self confidence.

Saturday, 14 September 2013

Do Your Thoughts Defeat You? by: Susan Russo

"Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn't happen." -Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby 

Do you think a trained athlete goes into a game thinking, "I know I'm going to lose, I can just feel it." Or, "I'll never win this I'm just not as good as the others." Or, "Who am I kidding, with my luck I'm going to lose.

No way! These people are not only trained in their field of expertise but they are "mentally" trained to prepare for the big events in their lives. They are mentally pumped up! They visualize peak performance. They see themselves winning. They master their mental skills so they perform at their best. They are in the "Zone." 

It's the same with your life. Do you believe you will succeed? Do you know without a question that no matter what life throws you, you are a survivor? Do you look at life with hope and anticipation of good following you? Or, are you a defeatist? Do you approach your life with a negative attitude and a foreboding that if the worst can happen, the worst will happen? 

If you are walking around saying things like, "I'll never do or have whatever it is I want," whether it's to get married, lose weight, get that job, find a way out of debt, be happy and on and on; you will suffer defeat before you ever get in the game. 

It's time to take a look at the glass and be honest as to whether or not you see that glass half empty or half full. Decide how you want to approach life. If you are on the "right" thinking path; keep on going. But, if you find yourself walking down Poor Me Highway, it's time to get off at the next exit and put yourself back on course. 

People will go and work out for an hour, they will shop till the drop, they will spend hours reading a book, they will spend time watching or playing a sport but, when do they take the time to get in touch with their inner-self and in particular their inner dialogue? 

If you slow down and breathe and really listen to your thoughts you will start to see why your life is where it is right now; why you haven't met anyone yet, why you're still fat, why you won't let go of the past, why you're still in debt and why you're still unhappy. 

Your thoughts are the conduit for your experiences. Whatever you mentally put out there, whether you're aware of it or not, is exactly what you will see showing up in your life. Your life is a mirror of what you think. 

So if you want to get into the game of life and play it like a champ; enjoying the thrill of winning and being a viable contender. Then don't allow your thoughts to defeat you before you even give yourself a chance. 

Start today and let yourself know that it's inherent in your nature to be a winner. You have the God/Allah/Higher Power given ability to do the thing you think you can't and have success in any area of your life. 

Tap into the strength that is already within you to be the best you can be and leave the rest behind. Get the word "loser" out of your vocabulary and triumph over a defeatist mentality to win the prize of your life - Happiness, peace of mind and the confidence to be anything you want to be and do anything you want to do!

About The Author
Do you want to live a better life or do you just want to talk about it? Susan Russo is an author whose direct approach is a wake-up call for those who are sleep walking through life. Find out how to wake up each day and enjoy your life at:

Wednesday, 4 September 2013

5 Ways To Improve Your Concentration and Memory by: Kevin P. Green

If you are wondering how to increase your concentration and memory, you're not alone. Several million of people all over the world are under a constant lookout for an answer to this question. Concentration and memory are brain functions which are closely intertwined. Without improving your ability to concentrate, enhancing your ability to recall facts and figures can be quite difficult. The good news is that concentration is a skill that everyone can learn and master. 

Concentration is your ability to focus on something intensely and without distraction. Developing the ability to focus even in the face of distraction will help your brain to store information more easily. By improving your concentration, you can experience significant improvement in your memory within a very short period of time. 

Here are some activities that you can use to boost your concentration. 

Puzzles: Puzzle games are known for their ability to both entertain and challenge our brains. Puzzles can come in a variety of forms, from Sunday crosswords, to sudoku, to logic and word games. There is quite a wide variety of activities available that can stimulate the brain and improve focus and problem-solving. 

Meditation: Meditation has long been looked to as a means for honing concentration. Meditation has the added benefits of relaxation, improved awareness, better breathing, and increased mental clarity. Learning to meditate will give your ability to focus a great boost. 

Create Study Spots: If you can choose one place exclusively to study, another place exclusively for work and a third place to play puzzle games, you will be surprised by your ability to focus on what you do. The brain has the incredible ability to easily associating things with the location which will enhance the storage and recall of details. Your brain will become conditioned to quickly prepare to take in more information. 

Remove Distractions: When you are concentrating on something, keep your mobile phone switched off and windows closed. Turn off all email and text notifications. Make it a point to set designated times for you to check your email or visit social networking sites so that you can remain focused on the task at hand. If you live in a place which is filled with noise, you may want to think about noise-cancelling headphones, or even ear plugs. Many people are surprised at how much they can accomplish with just a few modifications to their environment. 

Stay Organized: It is much easier to concentrate and assimilate information if everything you need to do so is laid out in an organized fashion. Taking a few minutes to structure your materials will make it easier to stay on task and accomplish your goals. 

If you are looking for an answer on how to increase concentration and memory power, these simple brainstorming techniques will help propel you toward your goal. Make these simple modifications permanent habits, and you will be happily surprised by the great strides your brain will take in both your ability to concentrate as well as your capacity to store and remember facts.

The author invites you to visit: