Saturday, 5 September 2015

Would You Give Anything To Be Successful? by: Amy Twain

Others will say yes immediately without
 second thoughts and without batting an eyelash. It's easy to say that you would do anything to be successful. But really, huh?

They say that your job won't take care of you when you get sick, so better take care of your relationships and the people close to you.

Yes, you'd have awards, plaques, higher paycheck, promotion, admiration (envy even) everywhere, and some pats on the back, but after that, what? How about your health, spirituality and relationships? Will success compensate if all these will be gone or suffer?

You can't have it once, so know your priorities.

I know someone a very successful person who got promoted. But at the course of her successful career, her health suffered terribly from her ulcer-creating job. Before she turned 40, she died of cancer. In her quest to be a success, she neglected her health.

Or how about really getting famous or successful but sacrificing time for your family, friends and loved ones? For sure, you don't want to miss anything on life, right? But you can't win it all, you know.

But I'm not saying these that we should not strive to be successful at our work and be lazybones. All I'm saying is that we should at least balance every aspect of our lives--career, relationships, health, spiritual life. If something's got to give, then so be it--it's what important to you that counts.

So, if given a chance to be asked again by that million dollar question, I'd say no, way.

But of course, everything is a matter of opinions and at the end of the day, we still make our own decisions. It's just a matter of setting our own priorities and how well we can juggle every aspects of our lives and how to balance them all--and still be happy.

How about you--would you give anything to be successful?
About The Author
The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a new home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. Click here to get more info about her Quick-Action Plan for A More Confident You.

Thursday, 3 September 2015

Focus Your Mind on the Task in Hand by: Willie Horton

How you focus your mind determines your life - your success, your failure or anything in between those two extremes. And, in truth, most people lie within those two extremes, in a world that could be described as not too bad. Research shows that your ability to focus is correlated with the level of success and happiness that you experience in your life. In other words, your success and happiness are entirely in your own hands. That's both good and bad news. Good news because now you know that all you have to do is decide to do what it takes to achieve the success and happiness that the normal person could only dream of - bad news because research also proves that we, as human beings, find it practically impossible to focus our minds. 

Years of study in the field of psychology shows that, because we have become so adept at performing our routine tasks without having to focus on them, we have lost our ability innate ability to focus - even on what we decide we want to focus on - the problem being that, sooner or later, pretty much everything becomes routine. As I say, the result is that we end up focusing on nothing. Think about it - even when you're supposed to be doing something: typing a letter, writing a report, digging a hole in the road, driving your car, playing golf - whatever it is, isn't your mind constantly in a state of distraction? Even if you're not aware that you're being distracted, research proves conclusively that you're subconsciously constantly distracted from what is going on right here, right now. 

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And that's what focus is all about - focusing on what's going on right here, right now. I believe that most people get confused about the link between success and focus. Sure, you need to have a reasonable idea of what you want to achieve - in life, in business, in a relationship, on the field of play - but the primary thing that you need to focus on is what you are actually doing right at this moment in time. Put it like this. Say that you want to be a boxing champion. You only train every so often, preferring to spend your time writing about and visualizing holding up the championship trophy. And, when you finally get into the ring to face your opponent, instead of hitting him, you gaze off longingly into the middle-distance trying to catch hold of that vision of your dream. Yes, you're totally focused on your goal, but what do you think is going to happen to you - very quickly? 

When you're supposed to be training you should be doing just that. I mean 'just' that - nothing else. When you're out jogging you should be doing just that - with nothing else in your mind, just total focus on what you're doing and how it feels to be doing it. And when you're in the ring, the farthest thing from your mind should be your desired goal. Top of mind should be what you're seeing, feeling, hearing, smelling and tasting - what you're actually experiencing as a result of being completely focused. 

Focus - just like living, happiness and success - is a now thing. Whatever you want out of life, you're never going to achieve it, no matter how much visualization or goal-setting you undertake, if you don't actually do what you've got to do. Now, what does that actually mean in practice? Well, if you've decided to spend Saturday morning with the kids, the most important thing that you have to do at that moment in time is be fully with your children - normal people would be physically there and mentally somewhere else. If you decide to make a 'phone call that may just get you through to someone who can open up new opportunities for you, the most important thing that you have to do at that moment in time is lift the 'phone, dial the number, make that call - normal people put off making those calls until they end up being never made. You've got to do what you've got to do right here, right now. 

But you can't just decide to make that important call - or whatever it happens to be - if you've an adult lifetime's habit of being unfocused. I said earlier that our ability to focus is innate. We could all do it effortlessly up to the age of eleven of twelve. We've got to get back to that state of mind. It's a clear, focused and attentive state of mind - if you've young children, notice how they are totally focused, to the point of being engrossed, on what they're watching on the TV. You've got to start re-training yourself to be engrossed. Start with something simple. Now, there's no point in trying to engross yourself in your favourite TV show - research shows that your mind will wander, just as it always does. The same research undoubtedly gives us an insight into why we fall asleep in front of our favourite TV show! 

No, I mean something really simple. Why not find somewhere to sit down. When you're comfortable, close your eyes and engross yourself in what you hear. Next time, you might engross yourself in what you feel - you'll find that your body is a hive of activity! The process, which takes time, patience and commitment, involves re-tuning in to your five senses - your only way of making sense of this crazy world! That is what focus is all about - and it is that on which your happiness and success depend. 

Copyright (c) 2010 Willie Horton

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Wednesday, 2 September 2015

Running From the Rat Race by: Roseanna Leaton

Is it just an age thing or does it seem to you that there are more people recognizing the pit-falls of modern day materialism? I was chatting with someone earlier today whose husband had retired early because it was either that or die from stress related symptoms. She too had chosen to retire early and stated unequivocally that she does not miss her high pressured job one tiny little bit. 

Within thirty minutes of that conversation I heard another friend comment upon the difficulty of working with particular partners who only sought to benefit their own end, and did not fully comprehend the value to working together in a more giving fashion. We hear many comments about "the rat race" or it business being "cut-throat", and so on. That's not very inspiring is it? 

What does this say about how we as a community approach business? It would seem that business can all too often become a money grabbing tread-mill upon which you have to focus so hard in order to succeed that you miss out on many of the more important things in life. You can easily forget the reasons why you set out on that course in the beginning and lose sight of both enjoyment and fulfilment in the process. 

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It becomes easy to lose sight of the fact that in the long run we gain more from giving than receiving, besides the fact that running at break neck speed on a treadmill isn't always good for one's health and well-being. It is easily understandable that stress is an ever increasing modern day health hazard. We stress our minds and bodies by constantly doing things at a pace which does not allow us to "smell the roses along the way". We become so absorbed in seeking results that we forget about the process. 

And yet in most things in life, if you focus upon the process the results will look after themselves. Reverting to the issue of age and having a more mature mentality, perhaps one of the main learning curves of life is that of learning to decide between personal gratification and global "goodness", if you see what I mean. 

I think we all have the awareness that money doesn't automatically bring happiness, and also that the best things in life don't actually cost a dime; and yet we are tempted by these things like Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. Life would appear to be all about biting into those apples and discovering through first-hand experience the effects of our own actions. 

Some of us take longer to learn life's lessons than others. We learn and develop at our own pace. For many of us it is our state of health which finally gets the message through to us. High blood pressure, heart disease and most other illnesses are the messengers which tell us that it's time to step off the tread-mill, slow down and reassess our lives. We begin to question what is in fact most important to us and what really makes us feel good. 

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for health and well-being. 

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Tuesday, 1 September 2015

Let Go, Stop Resisting by: Scott F Paradis

Do you ever just feel stuck? Is life, your life not all you had hoped? Are you struggling personally? Professionally? Is life moving fast? Too fast? Are you having trouble finding your way? Are you facing a crisis?

You have probably heard: "Buried in every crisis is opportunity." Are you looking for an opportunity now? Any opportunity? Just some relief? Well, stop searching, there is an easier way - read on...

Challenges, obstacles help us stretch and learn and grow. Every challenge, large or small, has a means to overcome evident in it (sometimes not so evident  but there still, nonetheless). What you need to surmount any and every obstacle you encounter or create is always available. Unfortunately, however, sometimes we are overwhelmed by what we encounter; sometimes we are swept up in the storm.

When facing overwhelming odds our natural human inclination is to hold on tight. We dig in. We cling. We resist the forces of change. We batten down the hatches in a storm. We attempt to defy the wind. We cling to the rocks in rushing rapids. We focus all our energy on beating back the threat when the real solution, the essential key is to let go.

The way to realize the promise of life - to fulfil your potential - is to stop putting up a fight. Stop resisting.

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Life is a kaleidoscope of change. This reality is energy in motion. Obstacles come and go, they flow together and they subside. Your resistance, your clinging holds obstacles in place. You continue to face an obstacle by freezing your own motion. As long as you resist you slow down time - the threat stays with you, because you stay with it.

The only requirement to succeed, to change the circumstances of your life, is a willingness to move on.

When you fall victim to the desire, or the need, or the fear, to cling to current circumstances you are resisting the force of change - you are resisting life itself.

The means to overcome any obstacle is always present. The energy, the strength, is available to the extent of your capacity to change, to journey on, to grow. The path of least resistance is to dissolve obstacles, reduce challenges, eliminate adversaries by going with the flow.

You need not be a solitary force against the world. You are here, in this reality, with a means, a capacity to navigate  a facility to move and a power to resist. You can linger and struggle or you can move on and create. The choice is yours. Everything is in motion - join the dance.

This reality is perpetual change. The collage is constantly reshaping itself into intricate, complex patterns and simple, beautiful designs. Sometimes the pattern forms obstacles - sometimes bridges. On this ride of your life, navigate past the obstacles; cross the bridges - go with the flow.

The purpose for your being may not be evident; it may not be plain, yet you are here - you are on the journey. You have at your command a wellspring of power - the energy of a universe in motion - move with it. Stop resisting  let go!

Copyright (c) 2010 Scott F Paradis

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Monday, 31 August 2015

4 Ways to Overcome Social Shyness by: Joshua Uebergang

It's tough when you find yourself in a conversation and, for whatever reason, you become paralysed and unable to speak. Not through some mental hiccup or brain freeze, but because you are afraid - deeply, pathologically afraid - of how your conversation partner will perceive you. 
Ironically, this sort of involuntary shyness is a self-fulling prophesy, as the horrible perception you wish to avoid is the very thing you end up creating about yourself in the mind of the other person. It's difficult to beat shyness, to encourage yourself to come out of your shell, but it is achievable. Here are some essential ways to deal with shyness in conversation and move toward a more open, extroverted you.


One of the most obvious signs of extreme shyness is your inability (or unwillingness) to maintain eye contact with other people in conversation. This has a compounding effect, as it decreases your confidence in your own ability to successful partake in the conversation, prompting even less eye contact, and so on. Maintaining eye contact is a great way to connect with the other person and let you know that they are interested in you.


Some shy people suffer from very obvious outward signs of shyness, such as blushing, twitching, and fidgeting that, much like the eye contact point previously discussed, tend to sap your confidence and make meaningful conversation a near impossibility. Control these physical ticks as best you can and find little things to focus your mind on when trying to converse with others. 

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If you feel that your shyness is getting in the way of a conversation you wish to have with someone, it is perfectly appropriate to let them know you are shy, and that you may be struggling. This is often better than letting the other person draw their own conclusions, which are often that you are arrogant and aloof, rather than merely shy. Confident people are okay with their weaknesses.


Shyness, especially at the adult conversation level, often develops through an odd psychological quirk where you think your efforts are abject failures if they go completely unreciprocated. For example, if you smile and nod at someone, and they do not respond in kind, a shy person is much more likely to castigate themselves for their own failure, whereas a more extroverted person is likely to (correctly) place that blame on the other person for not wishing to interact.
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